Feng Shuing Your Spouse

To continue a theme of Ho'oponopono, I thought I would write about applying it to relationships and weave some Feng Shui wisdom. Now why would anyone want to Feng Shui their spouse? Is the honeymoon over? Are those little habits that used to make you shiver with delight now annoying the heck out of you? Hmmm where did the chemistry of new love & bliss go? Well, in case the wise mentors in your life have not informed you that this is a natural unfolding of a committed relationship, I am sharing that idea with you now.
So how can Feng Shui harmonize relationships that are moving past the honeymoon stage? Lets' take a look at those Kua/Gua numbers that I introduced you to last week. Based on a person's gender, birth date and birth year, an individual will have an East or a West group Kua/Gua number. People of the same group generally have similar qualities and are considered compatible, and people of opposite groups are considered not as compatible. For more detailed information about this concept search the internet for various compatibility calculators and articles.
Yes, on paper, some couples are more compatible than others, but don't panic if you, like myself find yourself to have a completely opposite direction partner. Think about the deeper core purpose for the relationship. Did you commit to this person to live in the honeymoon state for the rest of your life, or did you agree to heal and grow along side one another? If you did partner up with someone who is your opposite, maybe you agreed to learn about patience, compassion and tolerance, and it is time to move forward with that understanding. Perhaps you can also observe how the pairing of opposites does work well in some situations. In my case, for instance, I am a big picture, global thinker kind of gal and my husband finds balance in wading through the small details that drive me crazy. When it is time to purchase a large ticket item he gets to work checking through all the fine print specifications, coming up with two or three options, and when he is ready I get to work intuiting when, and possibly where, we might find this best item.
If you are living in an ever harmonious relationship you don't need to read articles like this. But if you are human like me, chances are that a few reminders of the importance of looking within to find your way are helpful. You could consider working with Ho'oponopono (www.hooponopono.org/, www.ancienthuna.com/ho-oponopono.htm ) or Tong Len www.shambhala.org/teachers/pema/tonglen1.php , www.quietmountain.org/links/teachings/tonglen.htm ) to take full responsibility for the inharmonious parts of the relationships that you are engaged in. Hmmmm, yes, instead of pointing the finger at others, you can learn how to go within, develop self awareness, and surrender to healing your shortcomings with the assistance of divine forces.
Back to a little Feng Shui. To engage universal forces that can assist the harmonizing of relationships you can tweak the relationship corner of your house and your bedroom. To find the relationship corner of your house stand at your front door, looking into the house, and find the back right hand corner – that is the relationship corner in Bagua/Pa Kua Feng Shui. The relationship corner of your bedroom is found in a similar way. Stand at the doorway of the bedroom, looking into the room, and determine which corner is the back right one. To power up these spaces, place photographs, paintings, sculptures and other objects here that represent committed loving and respectful relationships to you. If you need some ideas do a little on line research or borrow a book from the local library. Be creative and make it personally meaningful. This kind of embellishment does not automatically create a life-long, romantic and blissful relationship, but it can awaken you to positive changes that you can make to help this process along.
Relationships are complex dances of bodies, minds and souls. If you want to grow old along side another you may want to learn how to dance to many different rhythms.