Many of you who read articles and blogs such as this one are searching for something. Perhaps you are questing to seek new information or to have your personal beliefs affirmed. Many of us do not like to spend time or energy reading information that contradicts our belief systems or perspectives - it just seems counterproductive, and it rubs us the wrong way. I regularly seek the “warm fuzzy” experiences to bring balance to some of the harshness of the realities of life, but I have realized that the most powerful healing and growing experiences I have ever had have come from the school of hard knocks. The most difficult life experiences are usually our best teachers.
As the end of 2010 begins to draw near and 2011 prepares to unfold another grand opportunity to leave the pain of our past behind us is here. I am sure that you have heard the “it’s all in the past, just leave it there”, or “move on - get a life” speeches that tend to do nothing for you but add notches to your anger and frustration quotient. You may also get the sincere and empathic “I am sorry for your pain” acknowledgement from others, and while this may support you momentarily it tends to enable you to remain a victim so that you can regularly solicit this kind of attention. The two aforementioned experiences are the black and white ends of the spectrum, there are many grey areas in between.
The year of the wooden tiger is coming to an end. It can be a powerful year full of destruction. Not all destruction is negative. You may have lost many things this year, and in time, if you allow yourself to see the benefit of it all, you will. Every twelve years the year of the tiger roams around to do some planetary housecleaning - decluttering - so that we have the energy, resources and room to make way for new ways and means. When things are being taken away we tend to only see it as loss, not as a preparation for the next phases of our lives. So if you have any personal housecleaning left to do, do it now. This is a great time to let go of old ways of thinking, acting, believing and living to let new healthier ones take root in our lives. Breathe deeply and let go of what you thought was your life plan if it is unravelling in front of you…let the new plan show itself to you. This is definitely a time to find that courage buried deep inside of you to move toward opportunities that make your knees knock and your heart sing. Gather your own team of personal cheerleaders to support you as you rubber leg it into your new life. Avoid Negative Nates and Nasty Nellies and ask for help when you need it - many people do want to help others succeed.
Attitude adjustments are powerful assistants in times like these. So if you are feeling rooted in victim mode and unable to climb out of the pain that a very difficult early life has brought to you I want you to consider a radical shift in perspective. This shift has a few basic beliefs at work. The first one is that we are spiritual beings having an earthly experience in a human body. Most of our lives we have been taught and cultured to understand that the human part is most important and the spirit just comes along with it. This shift reverses the priority. The second basic belief is that we are all born into this life with a unique and important purpose. Okay if you can agree to consider this for now we can get to the biggest shift in attitude that may assist you to find healing and a new way to experience yourself. So if we are spirits in human bodies and we experienced very difficult life circumstances - we were victims of other humans, can you find your way to forgiveness by thinking about the kind of sacrifice that the abusive spirits in human bodies made to be born into a toxic and abusive human personality. Perhaps they agreed to live an entire life as an unhealed human to give you the opportunity to become wounded and backed into a corner of despair so that your survival instincts would kick in and help you find your way to wholeness. I know this is a giant leap in perspective for many of you to take, but if you ask yourself if this is an appropriate one for you, you will receive an answer.
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